Bonding with your newborn baby – is it always natural?

For many women, bonding with their newborn is natural. They have carried the baby for nine months and adapt easily to the feeding, changing, and overall bonding process. But, this isn’t the case for all new moms.

Some women simply find it difficult to bond with their babies. And that’s okay. If you are having trouble bonding with your baby just after birth, don’t panic. The process can take longer for some – and this doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with you. In time, as you get to know your baby, the bond will develop and deepen naturally.

What can be affecting your bond with your baby?

• Too many caregivers handling your baby.
• Preemie babies who had a lengthy NICU stay.
• Babies who encountered problems in the womb or during delivery.
• Babies who were separated from their moms at birth and missed out on skin to skin time.
• Babies whose nervous systems were affected or compromised.

How can you encourage a bond?

• Keep your baby close. Touch and smell are key senses that newborns depend on.
• Use eye contact. Babies are fascinated by our faces and expressions. Eye contact helps establish a loving and trusting relationship.
• Respond to cries. Babies use crying as a means of communication. Leaving your baby to cry will make him or her feel insecure and will destroy any bonding efforts.
• Smile! It is the universal language of love. Plus, it is believed that smiling has a positive effect on stimulating and developing brain function.
• Chat to your baby. Your soothing voice will not only comfort your baby, but stimulate him or her at the same time.

In the meantime, talk to other moms you know. It may surprise you to find other women who suffer from the same problem as you do. They may be able to give you pointers and great advice that will prove helpful. Besides that, it will feel good to talk to someone.

Becoming a mom can be very rewarding. The struggle to bond is frustrating for those having difficulty, but it can be overcome. Know that there is a reason why you are having bonding issues and work on them. Before you know it, you’ll be forging a special relationship with your newborn that will last a lifetime.

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Lara Bestbier

Writer. Creative. Word-nerd. Aspiring photographer. Old wife. Brand new member of the elite society called mommy-hood. Mom to the only drama queen more demanding than me. “Life’s too short to keep a straight face”.

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