Toddler development: Your Nursery School tips!

One of the biggest steps in your toddler’s development, is enrolling her in nursery school.

The modern trend is to enrol your toddler at a nursery school from three or four years of age. She may have attended a playschool from an earlier age, or may have been happy and content at home with you until now.

While most playschools focus mostly on socializing and playing (for younger toddlers), nursery schools differ in that learning takes place in a more formal and structured way.

Many nursery schools have separate classes or sections for different age groups, so try to find one that will allow for your child’s progress without having to move her unnecessarily.

Follow your gut

Trust your instinct when looking for a school, and decide whether the school will suit you and your toddler’s needs with regards to accessibility, safety and hygiene and quality of teaching and care.

Transition tips

If your toddler has never been to playschool, starting nursery school may be the first time that she will be separating from you, so expect her to feel anxious and apprehensive. Try these few tips to ease the transition for both of you!

• Trust your instinct – if you don’t get a good ‘feel’ – don’t enroll your child if you have other options.
• Visit the school beforehand – take your toddler there a few times beforehand to familiarise her with the new surroundings.
• If possible, find a playmate who attends the same school beforehand – it always helps to see a familiar face.
• Teach your toddler some independence beforehand – let her get used to being separated from you for a few hours each day before “D” day.
• Let her walk, don’t carry her in – the wrench at crunch time will be difficult for both of you to handle.
• Distract her as you are arriving and walking in – say, “Wow! Look at that nice swing! Let’s go and try it out.”
• Don’t linger – be firm and encouraging. Tell her that she is safe and loved, then leave.
• Try not to be late in picking her up – it is not fair if all the other kids have gone home and your little one is wondering where you are.
• Be confident and positive – if you are, so will your toddler.
• Trust the teacher – once you are happy with your decision about your toddler’s school and her teacher, allow the teachers to take control whilst your child is in their care.

When to keep your toddler at home

If your child is still anxious, clingy and cries inconsolably when you leave her at nursery school and after two to three weeks is showing no signs of improvement, consider keeping her at home for a while and trying again later. In some cases, a change of school may be necessary. If the problem persists, consider a psychological assessment.

Extra-murial activities

You may be feeling pressurised to enrol your child in every extra-mural activity on offer. Stimulation in the form of gym, swimming, music, karate, ballet or modern dancing can be most beneficial for your child, but beware of over-scheduling your child.

Choose her extra mural activities with care, bearing in mind your child’s temperament and personality, as well as being aware of the hazards of over-stimulation.

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Qualified nurse and midwife Ann Richardson, co-author of Baby Sense, Sleep Sense and author of Toddler Sense, all bestsellers, has worked in the midwifery and paediatric fields for over 30 years. Ann has been in private practice for the past 22 years, and introduced the first private well-baby clinics, now a well-known phenomenon at Doctors’ rooms and pharmacies across the country.Passionate about her work and dedicated to ensuring that parents have the necessary knowledge to enjoy and rejoice in their children, she regularly lectures to both professionals and parents on various baby and childcare issues, in particular the effects of the sensory system on infant behaviour, and the management of sleeping disorders. Her specialisation is the treatment of “difficult babies and toddlers”, in particular those with feeding and sleeping disorders.She is a regular contributor to childcare publications, TV and radio. Ann is married with two daughters, and lives and practices in Johannesburg.

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